By Rachel Doboga

1. Putting on blush – I am very pale, but oddly enough I have always gotten compliments on my skin. Evan says that’s because my skin is “porcelain.” Whatever the case, I used to put on very light pink blush. My mother taught me well – used it only on my cheekbones and blend, blend, blend! I liked the way it made my skin glow, but more than that, I loved the way the makeup brush felt on my skin. It was the most silky smooth sensation I have ever experienced before or since!

2. Chopping vegetables – I know this one is truly bizarre, but we had the same wood cutting board for at least 10 years, and I absolutely loved it! I liked the sound and feel of cutting through the thick stuff like carrot, zucchini, and onion. I was actually the designated onion chopper because, while chopping an onion made Evan weep, it didn’t affect me at all. I’m leaving out fruits. I’m so rude! My favorite fruits to chop were “donut” peaches and gala apples. That cutting board made it through seven moves!

3. Changing radio stations in the car – I realize this one will make me seem ancient because now everyone phones that play music, but we didn’t have any of those things when I was growing up. The best we had was a CD player and a giant book of CDs. Who was in my book? Everyone from Frank Sinatra to Evanescence, from Opera Babes to Pat Benatar. There was a certain magic to the gamble of scanning my favorite stations and either finding nothing, or finding the perfect song I didn’t even know I needed in that moment. I miss the feel of pressing those six presets and waiting for enchantment.

4. Writing with a ballpoint pen – I actually did so much writing with ballpoint pens that the side of my hand was almost constantly stained with blue ink. I refused to use a red pen when grading quizzes, tests, and essays because it was, in my opinion, too aggressive for assessments students were already nervous about. I also used the deliciously smooth gliding ballpoint pens for grocery lists and “to-do” lists in my planner. I always loved checking items and tasks off my lists. I felt so accomplished, and the ink stains on my hand were proof of organization and hard work done!

5. Grocery shopping – The possibilities seemed endless! I loved shopping at Trader Joe’s especially so I could surprise Evan with sushi, shu mai, gyoza… The only thing better than shopping without him so I could surprise him was shopping with him. We would hit produce first. My favorites were strawberries, gala apples, zucchini, sweet Vidalia onions, tomatoes, sweet potatoes, and broccoli. Our shopping carts were rainbows! Then we would split up to conquer the list, crisscrossing and smiling at each other like absolute fools as we shimmed through the tiny, packed aisles. We would meet up at the cheese and hummus station where Evan would grab the things I was too short to reach. It was always an adventure!

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